12/13/04--a few more stories about "Orlando Kim"

One of my favorite stories about Kimberly....not that I necessarily liked the story, but because it just fascinated me as to how low someone can go...was about her ex-husband Tim.  Truly he was a huge scumbag.  The two of them had two kids, both little girls.  I heard a great story about the events that led to their divorce that occured right after the birth of her 2nd child.  Apparently Kimberly had someone in her family--I'm thinking a grandparent--who passed away right after she gave birth.
I mean, like maybe a week or so afterwards.  So naturally, she makes the arrangements to go up and attend the funeral.  So she's up there, and gets a call from one of her neighbors.  Well, it would seem that old Tim musta really had his jones on for the one week that his wife was gone because the neighbor reported to Kimberly that there was some woman walking out of her apartment--carrying her newborn baby!  (I can just imagine that this would be what we in the legal system would refer to as an "aggravating factor")  So she comes home, confronts the squzzbucket about his "dangerous liasion"--he admits it and announces that he's leaving.  Mind you, this is like right around Christmas time.  So he's packing his stuff while his wife is sitting there with their two daughters--one like 1 1/2 years old, the other maybe a month old---and he's walking out and stops, goes back into the apartment and grabs the t.v. and hits the pavement....leaving her there with the two kids and probably not a heck of a lot more than that.  Marriage.  Its a great institution.  If you like living in an institution.
What a lowlife this guy was.  He worked as a projectionist at some movie theatre and would NEVER give her child support.  I used to tell her that she could take him to court and really put the fear of God into him.  She would tell me that it would cost money to do that...which she didn't have.  Trust me, after awhile I felt like I was beating my head against a wall.

So it was an occasionally very weird relationship.  She was someone who was very loving, very caring...but she had been burned very badly and kept insisting that there was no one she would ever get married again.  I don't know if that was her protection or whether she really believed it.  She treated me so much better than the former Mrs Me # 2 ever did though.  She made me feel like I was someone who could be considered attractive and sexy to another person (something that my ex did NOT do just for the record).  When she kissed me, she acted not only interested...but....really interested.  Like it was something that she wanted to do, not something she was doing because it was a habit.
I look back and think that she set me up for going back into a serious relationship again.  She did a lot of little things that made me feel important.  She dressed up for me (and I'm not talking to go out to dinner--ahem).
But the divorce had really burned her.  And she had gotten really religious afterwards.  I mean, borderline scary religious.  I'm not against religion.  But towards the end it started to become this really consuming thing for her.

Next time....my birthday surprise, the Disney cruise...and we hit the end of the road.

Later,
Jeff